Self-Belief: The Key to Personal Change…
“People don’t change” goes the oft recited refrain. And yes, many don’t. They lead predictable lives and they draw similar patterns. They achieve identical results and they do it until their last breath. There’s comfort in routine and for them life is but one long routine.
But how about those souls on the coin’s flip side? How about those who admonish routine and view life as one big changing experience, who with persistence chase the goal of a better self? These are the individuals holding the key to personal change; these are the individuals with self-belief.
Self-belief – that yearned for quality that most strive for, but few achieve. It climbs Mount Everest and goes to the moon; it composes Ode to Joy and it writes Othello. But even more so, it has the power to change and grow; it has the power to transform. It’s the key to the ‘Golden Kingdom’ and it’s the key to personal change.
Personal change, one of the toughest and scariest things known to man, is neither for the timid nor the weak. It beckons courage and strength – a courage and strength that only self-belief yields. Not to be confused with self-aggrandizement, self-belief is the ability to know thyself and to be at peace with that self. Self-identity is its architect (see The Worst Kind of Identity Theft…) and without self-identity, self-belief is a facade concealing an empty building – a scam, a charade and a phony. By pretending to be someone we’re not, personal change evades and self-growth is impossible.
If self-belief is our ally, then insecurity is our enemy. It stems from a lack of self-identity, for if we can’t be secure with ourselves, then what can we be secure about? Insecurity is the fear of self-awareness and self-critique, both prerequisites to self-identity. It’s unfortunate, but many of us fear looking in the mirror too afraid of what we may or may not see. Insecurity is the harbinger of a fear-filled life.
On the contrary, self-belief and a healthy sense of self don’t despair, but gladly accept positive critique and responsibility. They recognize it as an opportunity to learn and not as an attack on the ego. And if done properly, they know it’s the path to a better person – a path for personal growth and change.
Influential American psychologist Carl Rogers (1902-1987) said that, “The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.”
And that is the person of self-belief, and only a person of self-belief holds the key to personal change…
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